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Dear LostAndConfused,
It was to save people just such suffering, that God made his Plan. Your
girlfriend's preacher was right, and she is right to ask you to leave,
painful as it must be for her. Once you are out of the house, and having
a chaste relationship, you both will be able to evaluate whether to get
married, if possible.
The sex bond is powerful, and causes bonding hormones that blind a person
to the negative qualities in a partner — that is one reason sex belongs
after the commitment. Both of you have been enjoying
each other, not serving or committed to each other, but humans are not a
means for our enjoyment, they are ends in themselves. Without a commitment,
there is no family.
If she is one of the best people you have ever known, then have respect
for her, and don't use her.
If you are validly married, don't ruin her
chances of finding a mate for life. If you are not validly married, then
think about marriage. Marriage is the bond that expresses commitment and
family, the bond that provides the nest into which new life can safely
come.
Without marriage, your sexual activity is dangerous to the children
it might bring about, and if you are actively preventing children by birth
control, abortifacient devices, or pills, then your sexual activity is
mutual use and a lie, because it says self-giving but withholds
the for
life part — in both its senses.
God does not want you to be lost and confused, but everyone who lives the
way you are living will end up lost and confused. God wants you to have
a firm, stable, loving, happy, and life-giving union with a woman who loves
you enough to marry you.
As for your stuff, you gave it away with your
eyes open.
You might ask the preacher for some help there. : )
Mary Ann
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