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Dear Elaine,
Your cousin is misinformed. NFP does not depend
on a regular cycle at all. Refer her to the Couple
to Couple League, or, better still, because of
her health issues, to www.naprotechnology.com.
She has had three miscarriages, I gather, and one
of them was life-threatening to her. This is not
at all uncommon. She needs and deserves good medical
care, perhaps better medical care than she is getting.
A consultation with a Napro practitioner would help,
as would a consultation with a Creighton
model teacher. The Creighton
model is far more effective than an NFP model.
It is used to diagnose and treat a variety of reproductive
problems.
If she wants more children, I do not see the reason
for tying her tubes, unless she fears for her own
life. If that is the case, or if she just wants to
have healthier pregnancies, the Naprotechnology doctors
can also help her.
You should encourage her not to give up, not to
tie her tubes. Doing so would mean giving up on her
own deepest desires for children. Also, tubal ligation
can have health consequences, and, most importantly,
it is contrary to God's law, according to which,
under the Fifth Commandment, we are not to mutilate
ourselves, nor destroy a healthy faculty of ourselves.
There are also many spiritual and marital reasons
not to have a tubal ligation.
Finally, this time of birth and postpartum time
are not the times to make these decisions.
It is convenient for the doctors, yes, but she is
vulnerable and fearful at these times, and strongly
tempted to avoid problems using this seemingly easy
way.
You don't mention her husband. Surely he is involved
in some way.
Encourage him to encourage her.
Blessings,
Mary Ann
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