Hi, Bryan —

I can't quote the canons, but all that is needed is for one parent to consent to a child's Baptism.
It doesn't matter whose surname the child has. The Church is concerned with the spiritual well being of the child.

If one parent requests Baptism and obviously agrees to raise the child as a Catholic, that's good enough. There is no reason to deny the child the grace of Baptism and entrance to the Church of Jesus Christ.

John

Bryan,

If your girlfriend is Catholic and has custody, she would be the one to give permission.

It doesn't take two, and even if you were non-Catholic and were married to her, she would be obliged as a Catholic to have the child baptized.

If your complaint is that you didn't know it was happening and would have liked to have participated, that is a different case: a problem of human relations and communication.

Mary Ann