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Hi, Melissa —
There are two potential problems
with this arrangement.
- One, it is
what we call an occasion of
sin, which means that it puts
you in a potential situation of temptation.
You may have no attraction to this
man now, but put yourself in constant,
close proximity with him and you
may become attracted, and one thing
may lead to another and next thing
you know, you've sinned.
- The other problem is what is termed scandal.
This means others will see what you
are doing and make the wrong assumptions.
This is slightly less of an issue
with you since there are three of
you, but suppose you and he moved
in a social circle together that
the other woman didn't move in, and
it became known that you and he lived
in the same apartment together. They
might conclude that you were living
together in a sexual way, and encouraging
that kind of behavior.
In a sense, you'd risk unintentionally
communicating that it is OK to
live together, even though you weren't
living together in the idiomatic
way.
A third problem is that this is not
the squeaky-clean type of image we
as Christians should project. This
is where the youth minister issue
is particular relevant. Kids will
be looking up to a youth minister
who should project an image worthy
of emulation and with no hint of
compromise. If that isn't enough
of a reason, it could be a career-limiting
move.
Thus, this kind of arrangement is
inadvisable and unwise for anyone,
but especially verboten for a youth
minister.
Eric
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