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Hi, Randy —
You might give her the book:
Sex
au Naturel: What It Is and
Why It's Good for Your Marriage
by
Patrick Coffin
which is all
about the subject. Marriage is an act of total mutual
self-giving. You can't give totally
of yourself though, if you're holding
back your fertility. Consider reading
some Catholic books on marriage (such
as this one) and slowly communicate
to her that there is a purpose and
reason to human sexuality that's
much deeper and more satisfying than
mere pleasure.
Here's another good book, maybe you
could buy this for yourself and read
it in a conspicuous spot:
Holy
Sex!: A Catholic Guide to Toe-Curling,
Mind-Blowing, Infallible Loving
by Gregory K. Popcak
Maybe you can explain, too, how negatively
her birth control affects your ability
to be intimate with her. After all,
for her to make such a unilateral
decision about your sexual life together
is frankly an offense against your
marriage. Prescinding from the fact
that birth control is wrong, couples
should make crucial decisions like
this one together and not impose
them on their spouses.
When it comes right down to it, you
cannot control what she does, so
as long as you don't endorse, approve,
or cooperate in her taking birth
control. You can still have
relations with her, if you continue
to witness to why it is wrong.
Eric
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