Hi, David —
You said:
Often people do not want to hear that
someone they loved is in Purgatory. They want
to think they are in Heaven, but with that
perception, they would not feel the need to
pray for the person who has died. I have heard
people say they have prayed twenty years for
their mother who has died.
That is why I was so disappointed
when the Church changed the priestly
vestment colors from purple to white
after Vatican II. I believe they
wanted to emphasis the hope of the
Resurrection for the faithful departed
rather then the Lenten color purple
which emphasized doing penance for
the faithful departed.
You said:
- Also, when does
one stop praying for a family
member who has died?
It seems that it could be our
whole life.
First point, one issue that promotes a lot of misperceptions on this topic is when Catholics, themselves, make references to having Masses said for the dead. They don't mean that literally, or shouldn't mean that. Those that have passed from this Earthly life to their Particular Judgment are:
- more alive than we are on Earth.
This phrase is used to distinguish between those living out their Earthly pilgrimage, and those who are dead only from an Earthly view; not in reality.
Second point, We can never have an absolute assurance
when a loved one has been purified
of any remaining self-love. That
is why perpetual prayer is also recommend.
This is exactly one of the
reasons
I started my other web site dedicated
to praying for the Holy Souls in
Purgatory.
I work on this with a different colleague,
Brian Bagley. Our goal is to have
Purgatory Prayer Programs started
in all fifty states. Our mottos:
God's Guest of tomorrow!
Heaven can't wait!
For those who live in the United States, we have put together a FREE start-up Purgatory
Prayer Program. All I need is:
- your name
- e-mail
- postal address, and
- a promise to reply to any future e-mails.
GET YOURS TODAY!
Hope this helps,
Mike
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