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Dear Elizabeth —
First I applaud you for getting more involved in your faith again. No matter how your talks of marriage turn out, staying close to the Church and the sacraments, especially Confession and the Eucharist, are key to a strong Catholic Christian life.
I hate to disappoint you but we can't provide more than what the Church teaches and that is,
the purpose of marriage it two-fold:
- creative (meaning there has to be an openness to bringing forth new life physically between the two spouses), and
- unitive
Seeing we are mainly an apologetics website, any pastoral advice we have is limited. Because of the complex background and medical history you have, it would not be prudent to comment further.
We always recommend questioners talk to their local pastor, if the priest is faithful to the Church. If he is not, just find another priest. Also touch base with:
A faithful pastor or priest that is loyal to the Magisterium of the Church is not your enemy and you should not be
lying to him; he is there to help and assist you in line with the Church's teachings.
- If you can't be open with him, how do you expect to be open to your future husband,
who I also hope is a holy man?
I was concerned that there was no mention of your future husband in your question.
- Does he know how you feel about having children?
Any couple having any ideas of getting married should always be having:
- frequent
- open, and
- totally honest
conversations. Like my mom taught me,
"Michael, It's a life-time commitment."
It's important to note, she didn't necessarily mean to say family life is always painful and a drag, in the negative sense, just that you have to take future marital issues seriously. I find it interesting how the mysteries we meditate on the
Holy Rosary are patterned after various types of stages that are in our lives. There are:
- Joyful
- Luminous
- Sorrowful, and
- Glorious
occasions in the life of any family.
The best advice I can give you is to open up totally on how you feel with your pastor and future husband. Remember, marriage is not a 50-50 percent proposition; but a 100-100 percent proposition where the husband
gives 100 percent to his wife and children; and the wife gives 100 percent to his husband and children.
Hope this helps,
Mike
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