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Luke wrote:

Hi, guys —

Good day!

I find myself in a situation and I'm in need of guidance.

I am madly in love with a woman whom I want to marry. We've been together for three years now. She has kids with another man who is legally her husband but they are no longer together. She was forced into the marriage at a very young age.

  • I understand that the Church is against divorce, but as far as I understand, being forced into a marriage leaves ground for an annulment, doesn't it?

She has never been religious, and I myself used to be, but fell away from the grace of the Lord a long time ago.  We've spoken at great lengths, and we both wish to find our way back again and be accepted into the Catholic Church. I'm just fearful that the situation of her marriage to another would make this difficult for us.

I feel so lost, now more than ever. I want to find the light. I want her to be by my side while we walk this path back to the Lord.

Kind Regards,

Luke

  { Can you provide some relationship guidance and counsel; and are there grounds for an annulment? }

Magisterium A.I. (magisterium.com) and Mike replied:

Dear Luke,

Sorry for not getting back to you sooner. We had a "4 to 12 month" period where we were “bombed” with question after question.

It would be imprudent and impractical to answer or address any portion of your question since we are not priests, marriage counselors, or the like. It would be best to find a local pastor, priest or spiritual director who is local to where you live, who you can make an appointment with to talk about your situation and get some counseling. If you have a hard time finding a faithful Catholic priest, try visiting some local monasteries or convents in your area.

At AskACatholic.com, we now have "A.I.—generated" tools that, (won’t answer your specific question, for which you will need a priest or spiritual director) but address certain key issues brought up in your e-mail.

The situation described involves several complex elements regarding the nature of marriage, the sacrament of matrimony, and the Church's teachings on annulment and divorce.

Understanding the Nature of Marriage

According to Catholic teaching, marriage is a sacrament that reflects the union of Christ and the Church. It is characterized by an irrevocable consent between the spouses, which establishes a profound bond that is intended to be lifelong and faithful (1, 2). The Church teaches that every valid marriage is indissoluble, meaning that it cannot be dissolved by any human authority (3). This indissolubility is a fundamental aspect of the sacrament of matrimony, which is seen as a covenant that mirrors God's unbreakable commitment to His people (4).

Grounds for Annulment

In cases where a marriage has been entered into under duress or without the full consent of the parties involved, the Church may consider the possibility of annulment.

An annulment is a declaration that a marriage was not valid from the beginning due to specific impediments. The fact that a person was forced into marriage at a young age could potentially be grounds for annulment, as it raises questions about the validity of consent (5). The Church requires a thorough investigation into the circumstances surrounding the marriage to determine whether it was entered into freely and with the intention to fulfill the obligations of marriage.

The Role of Faith

The situation is further complicated by the fact that the woman in question is not religious, and there is an acknowledgment of a straying from faith. The Church emphasizes the importance of marrying "in the Lord," which means that both parties should ideally share the same faith and commitment to the teachings of the Church (6). This shared faith is seen as essential for the spiritual and sacramental dimensions of marriage, as it fosters a mutual understanding of the sacrament's significance and the responsibilities it entails.

Pastoral Considerations

In navigating this situation, it is crucial to approach it with pastoral sensitivity. The Church encourages individuals in complex marital situations to seek guidance from a priest or a marriage tribunal, which can provide clarity on the possibility of annulment and the implications of entering into a new marriage (5). Additionally, the Church offers support for those who are separated or divorced, emphasizing the importance of fidelity to the original marriage bond, even in difficult circumstances (7).

Conclusion

In summary, while the desire to marry is commendable, the complexities of the current relationship, including the status of the existing marriage and the faith backgrounds of both individuals, must be carefully considered. Engaging with a priest or a marriage counselor who understands the nuances of Church teaching can provide the necessary guidance and support in this journey. The path forward should involve a commitment to understanding the sacramental nature of marriage and the importance of faith in building a future together.


 


 

 

References:

  1. Arcanum Divinae 24 / Pope Leo XIII
  2. Rite of Marriage, Introduction 2 / International Committee on English in the Liturgy
  3. Casti Connubii 79 / Pope Pius XI
  4. Amoris Laetitia 72 / Pope Francis
  5. Familiaris Consortio 83 / Pope St. John Paul II
  6. General Audience of 6 May 2015: The family - 13. Marriage (II) / Pope Francis
  7. General Audience of 24 October 2018 / Pope Francis

I hope this helps,

Mike

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