Sarah,

The sacrament of Confirmation, as understood within the Catholic Church, is a significant and sacred rite that strengthens the grace received at Baptism and deepens the individual's commitment to the faith. However, the validity of the sacrament hinges on the proper disposition of the recipient, which includes the freedom to choose to receive the sacrament.

Validity of Confirmation.

1. Freedom of Choice: The Code of Canon Law emphasizes that for a sacrament to be validly received, the individual must be properly disposed and must intend to receive the sacrament willingly. Canon 987 states that a member of the Christian faithful must be disposed to turn back to God, which implies a voluntary acceptance of the sacrament (1). If a person is coerced into receiving Confirmation, this undermines the essential element of free will.
   
   
2. Nature of the Sacrament: Confirmation is not merely a ritual but a personal commitment to live out one's faith. The Catechism of the Catholic Church notes that the sacrament is meant to be received in a state of grace and with the intention to embrace the responsibilities that come with it (2). If a person is forced into the sacrament, it raises questions about their genuine intent and disposition.

Can Confirmation Be Undone?

1. Indelible Mark: Confirmation, like Baptism, imprints an indelible spiritual mark on the soul, which means that it cannot be undone or repeated. The Catechism states that this sacrament confers a permanent character, signifying that the person is sealed with the Holy Spirit (3). Therefore, even if the sacrament was received under duress, it remains valid in terms of its sacramental character.
   
   
2. Pastoral Considerations: While the sacrament cannot be undone, individuals who feel they were not properly disposed at the time of Confirmation may seek pastoral guidance. A priest or spiritual advisor can provide support and help the individual understand their relationship with the sacrament and the Church. They may also assist in addressing any feelings of resentment or conflict stemming from the experience.

Conclusion.

In summary, if a parent forces an individual to undergo Confirmation against their will, the sacrament is still considered valid due to the indelible nature of the sacrament. However, the lack of free will at the time of reception raises significant concerns about the individual's disposition and intent. While the sacrament cannot be undone, pastoral support can help the individual navigate their feelings and relationship with their faith.

References:

1. Code of Canon Law 987
   
   
2. CCC 1310
   
   

   Who can receive this Sacrament? . . 1310 To receive Confirmation one must be in a state of grace. One should receive the sacrament of Penance in order to be cleansed for the gift of the Holy Spirit. More intense prayer should prepare one to receive the strength and graces of the Holy Spirit with docility and readiness to act. (cf. Acts 1:14)

   
   
3. CCC 980
   
   

   I. One Baptism For The Forgiveness Of Sins. 980 It is through the sacrament of Penance that the baptized can be reconciled with God and with the Church: Penance has rightly been called by the holy Fathers "a laborious kind of baptism." This sacrament of Penance is necessary for salvation for those who have fallen after Baptism, just as Baptism is necessary for salvation for those who have not yet been reborn. (Council of Trent (1551): DS 1672; cf. St. Gregory Of Nazianzus, Oratio 39,17:PG 36,356.)

   
   

Mike