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Dear Melissa,
Congratulations on trying to do the right thing!
I am a bit confused about your situation, however.
- When you say your husband was "pushy" about completing the RCIA class, do you mean:
- He really pushed for you to convert and complete RCIA? or do you mean . . .
- He would push for you to stay away from the class?
- Are you presently married in the Church?
<If you are not validly
married right now, it would be a good idea to get marriage counseling
before convalidating your marriage.>
- Has he ever brought up his issues with the Faith or with the Church?
<It sounds as if he is very conflicted.>
- As for you, are you attending RCIA because you want to?
- Are you raising the children Catholic because:
- you promised
- he insists, or
- because you want to, or
- all three?
If you want to be Catholic and want to raise your children Catholic, I
encourage you to persevere. Try to be humble and cheerful, and just do
your thing with the children, and let him be.
Your example will do more
than trying to argue or persuade. However, if he attacks you for trying
to follow your conscience, if he ridicules or berates you simply for going
to church, you have quite a problem. If he tries to interfere with you
and the children going to church, that is grounds for separation and perhaps
even annulment via the Pauline privilege, which is applicable when an unbelieving
spouse persecutes the newly believing spouse.
Mary Ann
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