Just to add to what Mike has said:
Mike talked about the matter of your previous marriage. You never mentioned
if the man you are living with was previously married. If he was, then
the matter of his previous marriages will also need to be looked at by the Church. Nevertheless, let's assume he was not married, and look at your circumstance.
Your current situation (although well intentioned) constitutes both adultery
and fornication. This is not a matter of feelings. It is a
matter of objective truth that is based on Divine revelation. The Church,
and indeed Scripture, has always taught that adultery (sex with someone
other than your spouse) and fornication (sex outside of marriage) are indeed
A sacramentally valid marriage is forever. A marriage is presumed to be
valid until it is found to be invalid for some pre-existing impediment
(i.e.: You were coerced into getting married at a young age.) So although
it appears, you have a good case for an annulment, your current living
arrangement constitutes both adultery and fornication.
The Church is bound by Divine Revelation. It doesn't just make up matters
of faith and morals based on contemporary social trends. It's not a matter
of being old-fashioned or new-fashioned. The Church is the Mystical Body
Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.
All that said, it is wonderful that the Holy Spirit is drawing you into
the fullness of the Christian faith found only in the Catholic Church.
Upon entering the Church, you will be asked to reject sin. Now assuming
you are granted an annulment; that will mean you and the man you call
your husband will need to be married.
It sounds like the relationship
is based on love, respect, and mutual nurturing. Hence, I would hope getting
married would not be a stumbling block for either one of you. However,
if on the other hand, you were not granted an annulment (which in my humble
opinion seems unlikely based on what you've told us), then rejection of
sin would mean you would have to change your lifestyle.
I encourage you and your mate to pray and continue to seek the Lord's
guidance. If your love for one another is of a self-giving nature, than
both of you ought to want what's best for each other. Therefore, allow
the Holy Spirit to lead and guide you.
As my colleague Mike has written,
you ought to seek out the further counsel of this old-fashioned priest or
a priest whom you would know to be faithful to the teaching of the Church.
After all, you are seeking the Truth. The last thing you want to do is
shop around for a priest that will tell you what you want to hear over what is the Truth.
Finally, it is evident that you are on a genuine faith journey that is
being led by the Holy Spirit. Take advantage of this grace. Be not
afraid for it is God working in you.
Under His Mercy,