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Isabel —
There is no reason not to be kind and good to him,
to be a true friend to him, as long as you don't
indicate acceptance or amusement at his way of life.
There is no need to confront or to ask
him to deal intellectually with his situation. It
is not just an intellectual situation.
What you could do is share your faith where appropriate,
be open about your own weakness in following Christ,
and Christ's strength, grace and joy.
Indicate that there is new understanding and hope
for homosexual men, through the work of Gerard
van den Aardweg of Holland (whose
books are
readily available on the internet).
A lot depends on if you are really friends, or only friendly. I
think it is good if you try to practice what Mary
would do:
Love and accept him as a person but that means
that you don't accept those acts that hurt him.
He can't help, at the moment, his neuroses and drives,
though he can come to freedom from them with a struggle
and grace. He has to find something that draws him
to that grace and makes the struggle worthwhile.
He could see that something
— someone — reflected in you and your
charity and faith.
Mary Ann
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