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I have a few Catholic questions on the faith
and I was hoping you could answer them for
me. I received my First Reconciliation last year
and do go to church.
These are questions I worry about everyday
and I am too (scared or embarrassed) to ask my
priest or family members. I don't want to
have to go to others, so please take your
time.
I have a friend who says they have a homosexual
orientation and they have no problem staying away from homosexual relationships and sodomy.
Are they still sinning?
Is fantasying a sin?
What if a person fantasizes about two
heterosexuals having sex; is that a sin?
— What
is an example of fantasizing?
Is sexual thought about two people having
sex, a sin?
Is a sexual or homosexual desire a sin?
— What is an example of this?
Is a homosexual tendency a sin?
— What is an example of this?
If a practicing homosexual never confesses
their homosexual sin can they still go
to Heaven if they obey the rest of God's
beliefs?
Do you need to confess all your sins
in order to get into Heaven?
My teenager masturbates while watching people
on T.V. having sex. I've asked the deacon
at my church, as well as other priests and
deacons, what I should do, but I don't understand
what they are telling me.
Is this natural?
Is this considered a sin?
Thank you and God bless you.
Carol
{ Are homosexual fantasies, desires, or tendencies, or even masturbation, considered a sin and is Confession necessary? }
Eric
replied:
Dear Carol,
Thank-you for the question.
You stated in your question: I have a friend
who says they have a homosexual orientation,
and they have no problem staying
away from homosexual relationships
and sodomy.
Are they still
sinning?
Yes. Any time you engage in a homosexual
act, it is objectively sinful. Assuming
they know this, they would be sinning.
You stated in your question:
Is fantasying a
sin?
What if a person
fantasizes about two heterosexuals
having sex; is that a sin?
What is an example
of fantasizing?
Yes, that is a sin. Jesus said that
even to look at a person lustfully
is sinful, so anytime you think of
people having sex for the purpose
of sexual gratification, it is sinful.
An example of fantasizing is if you
picture in your mind two people having
sex, and what they would look like
and do.
You stated in your question:
Is sexual thought
about two people having sex a
sin?
I'm not entirely sure how this differs
from fantasizing about two people
having sex, but if it is for sexual
gratification, it is sinful.
You stated in your question:
Is a sexual
or homosexual desire a sin?
What is an example of this?
No, but homosexual desire is intrinsically
disordered (that is, not in conformance
with God's plan for sexuality). Nevertheless
we must treat those with homosexual
desires with compassion, understanding
and Christian love. An example of
homosexual desire is if you, say,
get an erection thinking about sexual
contact with another man.
You stated in your question:
Is a homosexual
tendency a sin?
What is an example of this?
Same answer as above.
You stated in your question:
If a practicing
homosexual never confesses their
homosexual sin can they still
go to Heaven if they obey the
rest of God's beliefs?
If they engage in the acts:
knowing
that they are gravely wrong,
and
do so freely and deliberately, and
never repent of those sins, or
do
so only out of the fear of Hell and
not out of love for God:
then no,
they cannot go to Heaven.
You stated in your question:
Do you need to
confess all your sins in order
to get into Heaven?
A Catholic who has committed a mortal
sin (such as homosexual activity) and has done so:
knowing that it is wrong, and
done so freely (i.e. not under
compulsion)
with sufficient reflection (that
is they have had enough time to
think about what they were doing)
needs to go to sacramental Confession
to be absolved of that sin. There
is an exception if they die and are
sorry for their sins out of genuine
love for God (and not merely out
of a fear of Hell.)
You stated in your question: My teenager masturbates
while watching people on T.V. having
sex. I've asked the deacon at my
church, as well as other priests
and deacons, what I should do, but
I don't understand what they are
telling me.
Is this natural?
Is this considered
a sin?
Masturbation is a sin, and a mortal
one at that, but it is certainly
typical and expected. Watching porn
is a sin, too. I am not a deacon
or other clergyman so I am reluctant
to offer pastoral advice, but teens
who masturbate risk screwing up their
future sexual relationships with
women because they are learning to
pursue sex as a selfish gain rather
than as a self-giving act.
Men should pursue the pleasure of
their wives in sex, not their own
pleasure. That is how you please
your wife and build a happy marriage.
In order to do so, they need to learn
sexual
self-control, not sexual self-gratification.
The problem with watching porn is
that you begin to objectify women
and, again, see them as objects to
use for your sexual gratification,
and not as persons worthy of respect
and honor. True love seeks the other
person's fulfillment; lust seeks
one's own fulfillment. Your son is
conditioning himself in a way that
will be very destructive to his future
relationships with women.
I don't mean to put you off but there
is an excellent tape series you may
want to listen to called:
It is cheap so you have no excuse
to not order a copy. ;-) It
talks about the Catholic view of
marriage and I guarantee it's stuff
you never heard before about what
Catholicism teaches. It's dynamic,
even riveting. There is a shorter, more focused CD set called:
I'm not sure it's suitable for your
son, but I'd order it, listen to
it and either judge whether it is,
or else feed him what you think is
suitable.
Hope this helps!
Eric Ewanco
Carol
replied:
Thanks Eric.
Your answers did help.
So even if the person has a homosexual
orientation, but doesn't act on
the desires, it is not a sin?
What if you picture two people
having sex and you don't do it
for the gratification?
What is sexual gratification?
So a homosexual desire isn't
a sin?
You gave as an example of a homosexual
desire: getting an erection thinking
about sexual contact with another
man.
Is it a sin or isn't?
Isn't a homosexual thought considered
a sin?
So what if one day you are thinking,
and a homosexual or heterosexual
thought of two people having sex
comes in to your mind; is this
a sin? Is it a mortal sin?
Is it a sin if you picture two
people having sex, not for gratification,
but just dwell on it?
What is an example of a homosexual
desire?
Is it a thought about sex?
How do you know if you love God?
What if you confess out of the
love of God and fear of Hell?
Carol
Eric
replied:
Carol,
You stated in your reply: Your answers
did help.
So even if the
person has a homosexual orientation,
but doesn't act on the desires,
it is not a sin?
That is correct. You have to act
on the desires for it to be sinful,
although you can act on them in your
mind.
You stated in your reply:
What if you picture
two people having sex and you
don't do it for the gratification?
Then it's probably not sinful, but
you're getting into dangerous territory
here, where you risk rationalizing
something. Scripture says the human
heart is deceitful. (Jeremiah 17:9) I can only think
of a very few cases, if any, where
you have a legitimate reason to look
at two people having sex. *Maybe* in a case where a clinician, of some sort, was
doing it to help a couple in some
way.
You stated in your reply:
What is sexual
gratification?
Well, put bluntly, it's when you
get your jollies off of it — when
you deliberately enjoy something
in a sexual way and use it to arouse
yourself and develop a sexual response.
You stated in your reply:
So a homosexual desire isn't
a sin?
No.
You stated in your reply:
You gave as
an example of a homosexual
desire: getting an erection
thinking about sexual contact
with another man.
Is it a sin
or isn't?
Isn't a homosexual
thought considered a sin?
Homosexual thoughts are not sinful
unless you deliberately pursue them
— encourage them, entertain
them, savor them, and so forth.
Getting an erection thinking about
sexual contact with another man is
not, in and of itself, sinful — after
all, it's a physiological response,
and those are not sinful. Nevertheless,
if you deliberately embraced a temptation
and savored a sexual thought with
the aim of eliciting an erection,
that would be sinful.
Basically,
the point is to avoid arousal or
anything which you know will lead
to it. If the thoughts are accidental,
they are not sinful, but if you deliberately
seek them out, or allow them to remain
without dismissing them, that would
be sinful.
You stated in your reply:
So what if one
day you are thinking, and a homosexual
or heterosexual thought of two
people having sex comes in to
your mind; is this a sin? Is it
a mortal sin?
Nope. If it's unintentional, it's
not sinful, but you must dismiss
such thoughts as soon as you are
aware of them. Lifting them up to
Christ to help you shoulder the burden,
and persevering in steadfastly resisting
them, is an effective way to handle
them.
You stated in your reply:
Is it a sin if
you picture two people having
sex, not for gratification, but
just dwell on it?
There is really no legitimate reason
to do this, and you can too easily
fall into sexual gratification without
you realizing it.
Why tempt yourself?
You stated in your reply:
What is an example
of a homosexual desire?
Is it a thought
about sex?
That's fairly straightforward, it's
a sexual desire oriented towards
having sex with a person of the same
sex. If you have a teen, I assume
you know what sexual desire is. :-)
You stated in your reply:
How do you know
if you love God?
What if you confess
out of the love of God and fear
of Hell?
Scripture says, "Perfect love
casts out fear." (1 John 4:18) If you have
a kind of relationship with God where
you are afraid he's gonna whack you
when you sin, and are motivated by
that to not sin, that is called "imperfect
contrition". In that scenario
you must confess your sins sacramentally
to be forgiven.
If, however, you react as if you
had hurt a beloved friend, where
you are sorry to damage your friendship
with God, that's perfect contrition,
and it's possible to still be saved
if you die in a state of mortal sin
and have an intention of confessing
your sins sacramentally. It's still
OK if you fear Hell in such a scenario,
as long as your primary motivation
is out of love for God.
Hope this helps!
Eric Ewanco
Mike
replied:
Hi, Carol —
Thanks for your questions.
In addition to the fine comments
from my colleague Eric, I'd like
to add something from a different
spiritual angle; just as a diamond
has many facets.
Probably one of the most important
world-war battles that's happening
right now, here on Earth, is the
battle for
our minds and souls.
On our side: Our
guardian angel and other holy angels of
God here to assist us and remind
us of our call to holiness: our call
to be other Jesus's in the world for
others who have not yet heard of
the Gospel.
The enemy: Satan
and his many demons who strive to
put many sinful thoughts in our heads
and persuade us to go ahead, sin
and throw Our Blessed Lord, Jesus,
out of our lives.
The choice is ours as to which thoughts
we block or permit in!
The properly trained Christian mind
will always keep this vital point
in mind when they are tempted by
bad thoughts, especially those that
tempt us into the sins of the flesh.
The Church teaches that homosexual
acts, like sodomy, are grave sins
against God.
Why?
Because the man or woman is using
their bodies for sexual pleasure
but not for the life-giving purpose
God has intended their bodies for.
By nature, man
was created for woman and woman
was created for man. It
is through the life-giving principle of the marital act between a husband and wife, working
with the Holy Spirit, that new life
is created and was intended to:
stabilize society for future
generations with children, and
bring forth more adorers for
the kingdom to come.
This is why homosexuality destroys
our culture and the future of our
society in America. Successive generations
will not able to be cared for
because the importance of Christian
Marriage in our current society will
have been seen as an option instead of a
basic staple of society.
But what about single people?
There are some called by the Lord
to be a public witness for Christ
in the world as single people.
These people live their life looking
toward the “ultimate joy” they
will hopefully have in Heaven.
You stated in your (question/reply):
Is fantasying a
sin?
What if a person
fantasizes about two heterosexuals
having sex; is that a sin?
What is an example
of fantasizing?
One can be tempted with bad sexual
thoughts on their mind. The bad thoughts,
in themselves, are not a
sin, but a temptation.
The person who chooses to give into
the bad thoughts, by saying, "I want
more bad thoughts", sins by saying
"yes" to the sin. It
all depends on whether one chooses
to turn right away from the fantasy,
by saying
"no", or encourages (his or her)
mind to accept more bad fantasies.
You stated in your question/reply:
Is sexual thought
about two people having sex a
sin?
If it is deliberate, Yes.
You stated in your (question/reply):
Is a sexual or
homosexual desire a sin?
No, so long as the person doesn't
act on the desire.
You stated in your question/reply:
Is a homosexual
tendency a sin?
I'm not sure what you mean.
There is no known natural reason
for a person to have homosexual tendencies.
God made man for woman and woman
for man.
The root of homosexual thoughts come
mainly from the following media:
T.V.
radio
books
private ideology groups that encourage the behavior,
and
the internet.
Any information you hear about homosexuality
being a genetic issue that has to
do with our genetic make-up is garbage!
You stated in your question/reply:
If a practicing
homosexual never confesses their
homosexual sin can they still
go to Heaven if they obey the
rest of God's beliefs?
It depends on whether they knew that
homosexual acts where mortal sins.
If they did know, yet continued with their behavior, No, they would not be able to go
to Heaven. All men and women have
been created with the natural law
written in their hearts and are bound to be guided by the Holy Spirit to
repent if they sense what they
are doing is wrong (and/or) sinful.
This natural law (which is built
into the soul) tells the practicing
homosexual that (his/her) behavior
goes against the purpose for which
God made their bodies.
You stated in your question/reply:
Do you need to
confess all your sins in order
to get into Heaven?
Catholics have to confess all known
mortal sins including the approximate
number of them to get to Heaven. Sins
against the flesh are mortal sins
and must be confessed. The same is
true with those sins where one gives
permission to more bad thoughts,
if they meet the criteria the Church
has given.
IV. The Gravity of Sin: Mortal and Venial Sin.
.
. 1859 Mortal sin requires full knowledge and complete consent. It presupposes knowledge of the sinful character of the act, of its opposition to God's law. It also implies a consent sufficiently deliberate to be a personal choice. Feigned ignorance and hardness of heart (cf. Mark 3:5-6; Luke 16:19-31) do not diminish, but rather increase, the voluntary character of a sin.
1860Unintentional ignorance can diminish or even remove the imputability of a grave offense. But no one is deemed to be ignorant of the principles of the moral law, which are written in the conscience of every man. The promptings of feelings and passions can also diminish the voluntary and free character of the offense, as can external pressures or pathological disorders. Sin committed through malice, by deliberate choice of evil, is the gravest.
You stated in your question/reply: My teenager masturbates
while watching people on T.V. having
sex. I've asked the deacon at my
church, as well as other priests
and deacons, what I should do, but
I don't understand what they are
telling me.
Is this natural?
Is this considered
a sin?
Is this natural
for anyone?
Yes, the struggle and temptation
is natural for any man or woman.
As men and women, we were created
with fallen natures, thanks to the
sin of Adam and Eve.
The best comment I've heard on this
subject was from a priest who said
there is only one time when you won't
have to worry about struggling with
the sins of the flesh:
When you are 6 feet underground
— meaning, you are dead and
physically buried.
Our fallen nature manifests itself
by our sins of the flesh both inside
and outside the sacrament of Holy
Matrimony. Christian Baptism erased
original sin, but we still have a
tendency to repeat these sins of
the flesh due to concupiscence. Jesus even told us Himself:
The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. (Matthew 26:41)
So He understands the struggle and how difficult it is.
Many "red-blooded Americans" will
say. "It's natural!".
I say, "No, it is natural within
marriage." Because
of our fallen nature, "their
line" can be persuasive; nevertheless,
it isn't.
The Church and Our Lord tell us that
we have to strive to keep holy as
St. Paul struggled:
7 14 We
know that the law is spiritual;
but I am carnal, sold under sin. 15 I
do not understand my own actions.
For I do not do what I want, but
I do the very thing I hate. 16 Now
if I do what I do not want, I
agree that the law is good. 17 So
then it is no longer I that do
it, but sin which dwells within
me. 18 For
I know that nothing good dwells
within me, that is, in my flesh.
I can will what is right, but
I cannot do it. 19 For
I do not do the good I want, but
the evil I do not want is what
I do. 20 Now
if I do what I do not want, it
is no longer I that do it, but
sin which dwells within me. 21 So
I find it to be a law that when
I want to do right, evil lies
close at hand. 22 For
I delight in the law of God, in
my inmost self, 23 but
I see in my members another law
at war with the law of my mind
and making me captive to the law
of sin which dwells in my members. 24 Wretched
man that I am! Who will deliver
me from this body of death? 25 Thanks
be to God through Jesus Christ
our Lord! So then, I of myself
serve the law of God with my mind,
but with my flesh I serve the
law of sin.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church
tells us the following:
The consequences of Adam's sin for humanity.
.
.
405 Although it is proper to each individual, (cf. Council of Trent: DS 1513) original sin does not have the character of a personal fault in any of Adam's descendants. It is a deprivation of original holiness and justice, but human nature has not been totally corrupted: it is wounded in the natural powers proper to it, subject to ignorance, suffering and the dominion of death, and inclined to sin - an inclination to evil that is called concupiscence. Baptism, by imparting the life of Christ's grace, erases original sin and turns a man back towards God, but the consequences for nature, weakened and inclined to evil, persist in man and summon him to spiritual battle.
406 The Church's teaching on the transmission of original sin was articulated more precisely in the fifth century, especially under the impulse of St. Augustine's reflections against Pelagianism, and in the sixteenth century, in opposition to the Protestant Reformation. Pelagius held that man could, by the natural power of free will and without the necessary help of God's grace, lead a morally good life; he thus reduced the influence of Adam's fault to bad example. The first Protestant reformers, on the contrary, taught that original sin has radically perverted man and destroyed his freedom; they identified the sin inherited by each man with the tendency to evil (concupiscentia), which would be insurmountable. The Church pronounced on the meaning of the data of Revelation on original sin especially at the Second Council of Orange (529) (DS 371-372) and at the Council of Trent (1546). (cf. DS 1510-1516)
407 The doctrine of original sin,
closely connected with that of
redemption by Christ, provides
lucid discernment of man's situation
and activity in the world. By
our first parents' sin, the devil
has acquired a certain domination
over man, even though man remains
free. Original sin entails "captivity
under the power of him who thenceforth
had the power of death, that is,
the devil". (Council of Trent (1546): DS 1511; cf. Hebrews 2:14) Ignorance of
the fact that man has a wounded
nature inclined to evil gives
rise to serious errors in the
areas of education, politics,
social action (cf. John Paul II, Encyclical Letter His Holiness Pope St. John Paul II Centesimus Annus 25) and morals.
Because of our fallen nature, it
is a struggle to keep our (temples|bodies)
holy, but this is what we are called
to do so that, in receiving the Lord
in the Eucharist, we partake 110%
in His divine nature and become co-workers
with Our Lord in his vineyard: the
world.
Simple advice: If one commits one
of these sins, just go to Confession
and, end the Confession by telling
the priest you wish to make a good,
holy Communion.
Then you will have a clear
conscience when making your Sunday
obligation.
My
two cents from a personal view: Weather
you are single or married,
the sins of the flesh are not
easy sins to combat no matter
what age you are. I have found
the most powerful weapons in keeping
my (temple|body) holy are:
frequent Confession
Daily Mass and
praying the Rosary and particularly
asking Our Lady for help.
My personal prayer after Confession:
"Lord, you created my body
out of nothing. You created it
with all its senses: taste, touch,
sight, smell, and hearing. Although
my mind and body, at times, struggles
to understand aspects
of your teachings on sexuality
and may be drawn in the opposite
direction of your Holy Will, I
pray you will bless this body {make
the sign of the cross over your
whole body} and make it chaste
according to your Divine Will.
I ask this in the name of our
Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
Amen."
Hope this helps,
Mike Humphrey
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