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Hi, guys —
A number of years ago, I was led out of the
church by a relative but I have since returned.
While I was gone, I had a very difficult pregnancy
with bleeding problems. My husband and I had
effectively evaded a pregnancy for years.
This was not an accident; my doctor somewhat
bullied me about birth control. I asked my
husband to get a vasectomy which he complied
with.
Shortly after, I came to my senses and realized the doctor was just afraid of being sued.
I asked my husband to reverse the vasectomy because
it was wrong and a mistake. (I was back at
the real Church for good.) My husband refuses,
because he sees nothing wrong with the vasectomy. We could afford a reversal. I also think the
vasectomy altered our relationship.
I am not blaming my doctor. This was my fault,
for which I am paying with distress 100 times
over. I do not want to ask my husband anymore,
because he will perceive it as nagging. I
have been praying that he will decide to have
a reverse vasectomy. I do not actively want
any more kids, but I do want to undo this
mistake. If God decides I should have another
child, then that is what will happen, but
I will try to avoid one because of my bleeding
problems.
My father died last year and I want to be
right with God. I did go to Confession and
I still want the reversal.
My husband thinks
that avoiding the fertile times, while he
is sterile, is stupid. (I tried that.) Otherwise, I love him very much, and wish
I had not done this stupid thing.
Andrea
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