Hi, Jenn —

I would say there is nothing you can do other then ask her to please take that conversation elsewhere.

I think she is externalizing her own guilt and discomfort. If she can make everyone else listen to and accept it in some form, then it becomes more comfortable for her, and it's OK.  She needs to make you accept her behavior or make you angry — either one works just fine.

The best thing to do is simply make a statement of your own personal belief and, unless she is soliciting for guidance or advice, ask her to stop bringing matters of a graphic nature to the group.

If she persists, you should leave the group, and perhaps start a new one. You are under no obligation to subject yourself to coarseness or to persecution.

Mary Ann

Hi, Jenn —

I just wanted to comment on one line in your question.

Your friend said:
She claims I am stealing her fun or hate her fun and will not talk to me.

We get a lot of questions that deal with an array of sexual issues. All men and women deal with the after effects of original sin. This is called concupiscence. Although, due to this fallen nature, our minds and bodies may be drawn to see the Church's view on sexual issues as:

the Church of No

when we step back and learn about our human nature and passions through what the Catechism teaches, we will begin to see the Church's view on these issues as:

the Church of Divine Logic and True Love

If the (Church|Jesus) says a practice is good for us, it is for our own good; if the (Church|Jesus) says a practice is bad for us, it is for our own good, although that bastard the devil will always plant seeds in our mind saying it is OK.

Prayer, especially the Rosary, can be a very power weapon against bad thoughts. You can try to get a FREE one on the web.

Mike