Hi, guys —
As you know I have been in Christian ministry for many years now. Presently my wife and I are in Jamaica bringing the Gospel to the poor and to those in the streets. I came back to the Catholic faith on December 25th, 2011, praise God, and it has been an interesting journey so far.
My wife is not interested in joining the Church but she loves the Lord Jesus the best she knows.
We both joined Swallowfield Chapel half a year ago in order to minister to in the inner city communities and to many of the inner city young men and young ladies, who have absolutely no connection to the Lord or to the Church. Presently, I attend Mass on Saturday nights and then attend church with Jeri, my wife, on Sunday since she has not expressed a desire to come with me to Mass.
Interestingly enough, however, the Lord opened up an opportunity for her to work with one of Father Ho Lung's orphanages and part of that activity entails attending a weekly Mass. I guess the Lord knows what he is doing.
The question for you is this:
- When and how do I brake complete relations with Swallowfield?
They are great Christians, although not Catholic, who do a lot of good work in the name of Christ; and they use me a lot.
We deliver food to 65 shut-ins, in one of the poorer areas, and I speak to the young men and minister to them (about 100) obviously not all at once, but here and there at various functions.
I am in the process of meeting with our local priest on Wednesday to discuss opportunities through the Catholic Church where I have been attending Mass. I'm hoping that will give me some ideas. My basic question is one of timing, not of action. Eventually, I plan to leave Swallowfield and fully give all my energies to the local Catholic parish but the transition is what I am finding difficult, in terms of the logistics.
The logistics, of course, also entail financial support, since most Protestants will shun me once they find out I am a Catholic. I have no fear of doing this. I have shared this with some already, and once again, it's just a matter of timing. I am trying to be sensitive to my wife's needs and feelings since she has not yet embraced the True Church and Her teachings. Eventually, even that will be taken care of because that is what He promises.
So I covet your input. In my heart, I am fully Catholic. I am in the process of annulling my first marriage so my present wife and I can be married in the Catholic church sacramentally. That is also a challenge since my present wife is not interested in annulling her previous marriage, although neither she nor her former husband [were/are] Catholics, so all I can do is proceed as
I know how: one step at a time.
In the mean time, today in Kingston, I have some divine appointments as I walk the streets and allow the Holy Spirit to send me those hungry for God. I have also ordered some cards with a picture of Jesus. On the back, there is the Confiteor with my phone number and a message from me telling them that if they prayed this prayer and meant it, they need to:
- find their local Catholic Church
- talk with the priest
- join an RCIA group, and
- start attending Mass regularly.
This way they can get in touch with me. I look forward to getting some feedback to my original question soon.
Rico
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John replied:
Rico,
Technically you can't be a member of another Church or ecclesial community and still be in the Church.
You can fellowship with them and you can do some limited "ministry", in the sense of feeding the poor and so on, but you can't be on the streets preaching in the name of another Church.
Now that's the letter of the law. There are all kinds of gradations and pastoral considerations which I can't address because I don't have all the facts in front of me. You should probably talk your priest and have him advise you on how to proceed.
I'm not a canon lawyer, but at the very least, you shouldn't receive communion with them if you are reconciled with the Church and are receiving the sacraments in the Catholic Church. This is not because they are bad people. It's just that we believe something very different about Communion than they do. By receiving communion with them, you are implying a unity, which does not yet exist, but for which we pray.
The best thing to do is talk to your priest. In fact, you should probably try to find a good spiritual director Rico to help you along and, when it's time for your wife to follow you into the Church,
it wouldn't hurt you to participate in the RCIA program your wife starts.
[If you are in a similar situation as Rico, make sure you check out Marcus Grodi's Coming Home Network. It just for people in Rico's situation.
Check out their conversion stories too!]
John
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Rico replied:
Thanks John!
May the Lord bless you and your work.
Rico
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