Adrianna Garcia wrote:

Hi, guys —

I'm going out with a Wiccan man but he was raised Catholic.

  • Am I breaking any rules and, if so, do I need to break up with him?

He also wants to get married one day.

  • What should I do?


  { Am I breaking any rules dating a Wiccan man who is interested in marrying me? }

Mike replied:

Dear Adrianna,

Thanks for the question.

I'm glad you wrote. A Catholic who was never taught the faith or left the Church on his own for Wicca is not the type of person any Christian should date. If you read this Wiki article it will seem far more clear.

A Catholic, or anyone, for that matter, should never date someone that they wouldn't also consider marrying — that's the purpose of dating — to see of the person you are dating is a good lifetime loving mate. For the good of the Catholic, all Catholics have to marry according to form.

This posting explains it pretty well:

You said:

  • Do I need to break up with him?

Not necessarily. Assuming you are both baptized Catholics, you can marry in the Church but if you marry this man and want your children baptized, the Church would have to see a good hope that both of you will raise the children of your love as faithful Catholics.

If you justly feel strong about your faith and truly want to have a Catholic family that is faithful to the Church, yes, you should break up with him and strive to find another:

  • Catholic man, who is faithful to the Church, or
  • a non-Catholic Christian man not hostile to Catholicism.

Being married in the Church is so undervalued these days but is so important. Think of the a valid Catholic marriage as the Krazy Glue that helps bond the marriage for life. The word sacrament comes from a word which means, to swear a covenant oath.

God is swearing He will stand by both parties in a valid Catholic marriage for life!

I hope this helps,


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