Hi, guys —
I am trying to figure out how to handle this situation.
I am a cradle Catholic who married the son of an Episcopal priest. My husband's mother is an Episcopal priest. She is a bit of a militant feminist and a control freak and my husband has mother issues. I knew the mother issues existed when I married him, and more often than not, they are amusing . . . except this one.
We were married in an Episcopal church. We did the Pre-Cana classes through the diocese, and I signed the Disparity of Cult form so our marriage is recognized as valid.
We adopted our daughter from China. She is lovely but to avoid the Baptism issue, meaning to avoid my mother-in-law wanting to baptize her in the Episcopal church, we baptized her in the hotel room the night we got her. We froze holy water so it would pass through the airport scanners as a solid rather than a liquid.
My husband has not been through RCIA but he attends Mass with me. He also receives Holy Communion. He knows its against the rules but:
- says he believes in transubstantiation and the Real Presence, and
- says its on his conscience, not mine
so I leave well enough alone.
I was relieved when he did not protest when I pushed to enroll our daughter in a progressive, ecumenical, Roman Catholic school. She is doing great, she loves it, everybody is happy but my mother-in-law. They are doing sacrament preparation and I've been getting calls from the school secretary, saying they need her Baptismal certificate.
When I enrolled her in the school, on the form, I just wrote China where it asked about her Baptism.
I know her Baptism is valid but I don't have documentation. I hate the idea of explaining this at school. My husband thinks the secretary is dumb (she kind of is) and says he's going to make a fake Baptismal certificate written in Chinese and hand that in to shut her up. I think there is something seriously wrong with that idea . . . telling the truth is less complicated than trying to explain forging a Baptismal certificate in Confession.
- What are the rules for Baptisms performed in a hotel room in a Communist country where we were told we would be arrested if we tried to enter the Catholic cathedral in Guangzhou, because we needed a permit from the government to enter?
We did want to baptize her in Guangzhou, but got nowhere with the cathedral and nobody would answer our e-mails. Any assistance you can give about how to deal with this situation would be most welcome.
I am trying to avoid outing my husband as a non-Catholic because that will get him on a rant about:
- how Henry VIII saw some of the most corrupt Popes in the history of the Church, and
- how Europe was breaking away from the Catholic Church in droves, and
- about how, yes, the divorce was convenient, but the Catholic Church was corrupt and greedy and deserved the Reformation.
As this is what he was taught growing up, and like I said, getting him to be happy in this Catholic parish leaves me not wanting to rock the boat.
Thanks,
Nancy
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