Dear Allen,
I just wanted to add to what my colleagues have said.
You said:
- What happens when a person is not sorry for the sin they have done?
- Do you just ask God to help you not do it again?
Yes! We can have either a perfect contrition or imperfect contrition for our sins.
As I said in another posting:
All that is needed for a valid Confession is a sincere heart and imperfect contrition.
- Outside of Confession a perfect contrition is needed (which can be very hard) but
- Inside Confession an imperfect contrition will do.
The Catechism tells us:
1735 Imputability and responsibility for an action can be diminished or even nullified by ignorance, inadvertence, duress, fear, habit, inordinate attachments, and other psychological or social factors. |
If you are having problems being sorry for your sins, ask for that grace to be sorry in the sacrament of Confession itself and educate yourself on why your sins are indeed sins. One quote I always like is one that Eric uses:
Remember that the Confessional is a tribunal of mercy and healing, not of judgment. The point is not to accuse you or impose guilt; the point is to relieve guilt and apply the balm of mercy to sins so that they might be healed.
A sin is like an injury, and the priest is like a doctor.
So lay everything out there for the priest to hear, for he is not acting on his own, but Jesus is using the priest to hear your sins and mend your soul.
Keep this in mind: A soldier who doesn't tell the medic that he is seriously injured in embarrassing places, will die over time.
A medic can't mend a soldier who hides his/her wounds.
I hope this helps,
Mike
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