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Dear NotSureWhatToDo,
First, if you didn't see them, make sure you check out these two postings from our database:
You said:
- Usually I end up mentioning that I prefer not to hold hands but what if the person I'm standing next to does so?
- Is my method okay?
- What should I change?
I believe this is one of those customs that has entered the Church though Protestants who have converted to the faith and while you are correct that holding hands is not part of the Mass's rubrics, as you said, it is not something on a doctrinal level but rather a tradition or custom that the Church has given guidelines on. (Discouraging this practice.) Both, the celebrant of the Mass and the Mass attendees, should follow these guidelines.
If you don't wish to hold hands, you don't have to. In certain family-related settings, the circumstances may be different. What you want to ask yourself is:
- Will my actions or decisions help my family member to have a better, stronger relationship with Jesus and His Church?
If, in certain situations, it does, hold hands.
I hope this helps,
Mike
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