Hi, guys —

Our daughter is getting married in 2016. My husband is from a very, very strict Catholic family. I am a convert . . . I use to be Lutheran. We raised our daughters to be good Catholics and sent them to Sunday school, Confirmation, and retreats. After that, both of them changed directions.

Our younger one believes in a greater being . . . not necessarily a God. The one that's getting married defines herself as a Christian. The man she is marrying is Catholic but, he too, considers himself a Christian but neither go to church.

Here comes the rub.

They want to have their wedding outside at the venue where the reception is being held at. When my daughter called her grandma and broke the news she said all kind of things that my daughter thought was uncalled for.

I know my mother-in-law means well but she is not helping . . . she is hurting my daughter's feelings. My mother-in-law thinks she will go to Hell, or something, if my daughter doesn't get married by a Man of God. My daughter is looking for a Man (or Woman) of God to perform the ceremony but if she can't find one, she will settle for a Justice of the Peace.

I am looking for advice on how to handle my in-laws.

Heidi