My question is more of a concern.
My husband and his family are Catholic and all baptized. They would like our son (12 months old) and new son, due next month, baptized together.
I am not Catholic nor have I been baptized in any Christian church however I am very supportive of the values of the Church and can say that I try to live true to those values every day.
I am fine with my sons being baptized in the Church but I have concerns.
My husband attends Church on the important days and observes Lenten rules. He has two children from a previous marriage who have been baptized and receive Communion. He was previously married in the Church and, although we have discussed it, he has not been divorced in the Church yet, so as I see it, the Church still recognizes his marriage to his ex-wife.
We have a tumultuous relationship with his ex-wife, who tends to enjoy controlling my husband when we have custody of his children. Her name is very similar to mine, and since she still has my husband's last name, there is a lot of confusion at schools, doctor's offices, etc., as to who is who. She left my husband in order to be with women and does not seem to have any motivation to confirm the divorce in the Church. So here is my question/concern:
- How would my husband's status, being still married in the Church to his ex-wife, affect our son's Baptisms?
I believe this is more of a pride issue for myself than anything but this is my family and I feel a bit like an outsider in the whole process.