Hi, guys —
Thank you for this opportunity. I have been having a hard time moving on from a situation.
A year ago, I met a man who is in seminary. As soon as I felt attracted to him I prayed to God that I would not develop feelings for him. Clearly in my heart, I felt I should not be doing things just to be around him, but that I shouldn't avoid doing things in my parish just because he was there.
I was completely respectful of his vocation and did not initiate any conversations. He, on the other hand, would literally follow me around, always start conversations, share very personal stories, talk to me about God in a very romantic manner and always point out romantic situations around us. So, I did develop feelings, but kept to myself and did not show them.
I was in a time of deep prayer and in a state of grace. I would pray and I would get what I thought were signs, like 1. him showing up to adoration when I was there or 2. him sitting outside his home when I drove by, 3. Bible passages that seemed to be meant for me and be an answer or 4. him having dinner at my neighbor's house when I sat outside on my deck begging God for clarity as well as some other things.
We became friends during his summer stay at our parish but when it was time to go, he never responded to my text wishing him well and safe travels. We did not communicate again. It is summer again and he has come to our parish twice and it is awkward.
I have prayed and prayed for clarity, saying novenas, Rosaries, etc. all along asking God to help me move on, or for a sign that helps me understand God's will in all this but, I have no clarity. The desires of my heart for a holy man are so strong, I can't help but think of this particular man. My love for him is steady, if not growing.
- Does God help us In these matters?
- Am I not hearing Him?
- Does God not remove these feelings for a reason?
- Does God talk to us through our feelings?
- Why am I not receiving any clarity by my prayers?
I accept and desire God's Will but am having a hard time discerning and knowing what it is.
Thank you!
Debra
|