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Dear Ryan,
Thanks for the question.
You cannot sleep with your girlfriend (with or without sex) because it poses a risk of the near occasion of sin.
You may hug her, as hugs are for everyone we care for, but hugging in order to feel her body is using her in a pseudo sexual way, so that would be a "no".
A kiss is okay, but making out is not, because that is a kind of sexual activity.
Sex is for marriage, so you must not live together until you are married, because that is putting yourselves into the near occasion of sin.
You don't get marital privileges until you are married. Chastity requires self control and respect for the purity of yourself and your beloved. It isn't easy, especially when you are very attracted to one another, and that is why you must limit your time in, and around, the company of others, because too much alone time makes the temptation(s) all the more difficult.
This is what you do. You act like friends who are close until such a time as you are able to marry, which could potentially be well after college.
A man needs to provide for his wife and family so you need to focus on getting yourself together for that purpose. If your relationship is strong enough, it can wait.
Most high school kids are too young and unprepared to really make decisions that are for forever, so even though you feel it is a forever love, it may not be. For most teens it usually isn't, but there are exceptions.
Your adherence to chastity will prove which category you fall into.
Peace,
Bob Kirby
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