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Jessica Yamonako wrote:

Hi, guys —

My daughter, who lives with me, wants her boyfriend to occasionally spend the night at my home.

I told her, No, because my allowing her to do so causes me to sin and I have to answer to God for being permissible in those circumstances. She has threatened to move out of my home.

I told her that what she does outside of my home is on her, not on me!

  • Am I wrong?


  { Am I wrong in not to let my daughter's boyfriend occasionally spend the night at my home? }

Paul replied:

Dear Jessica,

I believe you are right.

37 Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; 38 and whoever does not take up his cross and follow after me is not worthy of me. (Matthew 10:37-38)

Whenever we are forced to choose between God and anything or anyone, we must choose God. Doing so shows character, principle, and is a good witness to others even when they don't currently consciously appreciate it.



Bob replied:

Dear Jessica,

Thanks for the question.

Your house, your rules.

If you were to allow your daughter to fornicate in your house that would be your responsibility, and yes, you would be culpable of sin. If she did it unknowing to you, then you are not culpable, so you are correct.

Maybe she needs to move out now and live her own adult life; reaping the consequences for what she sows.

You have done your job, now it is time for her to grow up.


Bob Kirby

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